All Comments on 'The Dark Kiss: A Guide to Analingus'
by Selena_Kitt
- 42 Comments
But for me and my lover, it is truly the ultimate closeness.
How were we to ever know that she would love having it done so much that now she demands to do it to me! This from a girl who just a few short months ago didn't even want me to give oral to her vagina.
He never describes the joy to the female of receiving that rim job from her male lover.
Also I can not imagine how one gives any description of ANAL sex without creating one horrible stink
some parasites are nearly impossible to determine if being carried... most labs can't do the work well enough. they can live inside gut lumen cells as well as on surface...
plus motility makes them transit downwards
same for germs/other germs (some weren't mentioned)... there's over 6 pounds of them in the intestines
there's no guarantee of safety...
so kiss my ass (but i won't be kissing yours!)
and I ain't just wise-cracking...
hell, i should be getting paid for this
being 'newer' to more sexual 'experimentation' (early 40's) the info is very appreciated. One time a lover 'slipped' just as you described, and I couldn't believe how FABULOUS it felt! ty from this str8 female ;)
How on earth can anyone tell me that they like the smell and taste of shit, and don't mind dipping there tongue or cock in that area is completely and utterly beyond my imagination. Yes I did try ONCE. But then I realised that I am a normal hetro sexual male and not a semi homo sexual male. I truly believe that if you really are into the shit side of life then you must have some homo sexual tendencies. My belief I'm afraid.
I laughed as the read the last reviewer! lol Unlike him, I have no experience, but I sympathize with his view.
I think --- from what I've read --- that the most sensitive nerves pertaining to sexual stimulation are located around the vagina area, especially around the clitoris area.
Women, in fact, don't put fingers in their other hole during mutual sexual stimulation; if they do, they seem to go for their clitoris area: rubbing or stimulating that area, because that's how, theory says, they orgasm. (For guys, it is obviously the penis, especially around the sensitive area of the penis's head.)
I think butt fucking is just a fad, like break dancing, rap noise, etc. (not something deep like, say, jazz, rock, country, etc!) So many people are supposedly doing it, even if it hurts (especially the women), so they subject themselves to it and the "enjoyment" derived from it is more an "experience" rather than a pure sexual enjoyment.
Please note that two homosexual guys do it partly because they each have the chemical receptors to receive the other's hormones. Heterosexual folks are not attracted to the same gender because their hormone receptors don't bindd well with hormonal secretions from the same gender. To me a guy could be very handsome, and I have no desire towards him sexually. Don't want to touch him in any sexual way whatsoever.
Women, now, that's different. Even strangers. (Point is, hormonal secretions and their effectation are very subtle, deeply biological, so we normally do think of such chemical/biological subtleties.)
The other aspect as to why two homosexuals are able to easily have intercourse is that the butt is a good way to sensitize the head of the penise, to induce ejaculation; it serves more or less like the vagina.
Truly homosexual men, again, don't have the chemical receptors for FEMALE hormonal secretion, so they are not "attracted" to females; putting their penis inside a vagina is as gross as a heterosexual guy would imagine what's like putting his dick inside another guy's but hole.
But, again, for heterosexuals (males and females) to put objects, including fingers and penises, inside each other's but hole ---- these are what I would call "pushing the envelope" sexual activities.
I don't think either the participating woman or man can actually have orgasms from their but holes being stuffed, despite the fact that such an act, again, can bring them mutual "satisfaction" of a certain (fad-related, fad-driven) pursuit,,,,
At least some of these reviewers have the honesty to say they have no experience in this area. But their other comments would quickly tell us this as well.
Why is it that everyone thinks anal sex is a "gay" thing? I am a straight man who knows a lot of straight women who are into it as well. Some of them even like rimming too. Call it a "people" thing.
Anal sex is not a "fad." It has been around since the dawn of time practiced primarily by -are you ready for this people- heterosexuals. It was a way for a couple to be able to enjoy intercourse without having to worry about pregnancy. In acient Greece (famous, or infamous, for its gay friendly climate) men would place their penis between another's thighs for stimulation. Not penetration. And today, the most common form of sexual contact between gay men is oral sex. More gay men give blow jobs than take it up the ass, so why isn't oral sex a "gay" thing?
Done right (which isn't difficult) anal sex and rimming is not dirty or smelly. And yes, people can orgasm from anal contact. Go learn about the prostrate gland for crying out loud. Or better yet, just read the Tristan Taormino book listed in the essay. Even if it doesn't open up your sex life, it will at least give you facts rather than misconceptions to base your opinions on.
Anyway, thanks for doing your part to demystify an often neglected topic.
are just plain stupid! This is a PORN SITE!
Cracks me up (pun intended) that people have a problem with this article. This is Literotica, not Fundamentalist Rednecks-R-Us!
Are there really people reading this site who have a religious, moral, philosophical or ideological problem with other-than-Amish sex???
This article is excellent...informative, well-written and interesting, and the author is one of those that elevates this site from a typical ooo-spew-goo site.
Jesus Christ, some of you people are truly ignorant (if what I said bothers you, I am talking to you).
Cleaning is important. I have found that anal sex in a bathtub cleans the sphinter muscle quite well as well as giving an immense amount of pleasure to your partner. A finger after that in the tub is also fun. There is no taste or odor if these steps are used.
My boyfriend and I are each other's firsts, monogamous and close. I always wondered what it would be like for him to lick me there as it's a sensitive area, so I decided instead of asking, to try giving, open him up to the idea, and see what it was like. Figured it would only be fair. So, with some trepidation as he's a pretty conservative guy, one day when I was going down on him after he had showered I asked him if I could. To my surprise he got a kick out of me suggesting something new and so intimate, and said yes. And boy, did he just love it. He's usually pretty quiet when receiving pleasure, but when my tongue touched him, he let out the loudest moan. I assure you he's as straight as can be. It just felt incredible to him. Nor does it mean either of us are going to pursue anal sex.
I'm pretty pragmatic about stuff, I'm not squimish but I'm not into gross things either. I let my tongue be my guide - he tasted fine, just like any other body part, in fact it was pleasant, and there was no smell. And I continued giving him head afterwards, and now just use it as part of my oral sex repitoir. I just make sure he's bathed or showered, and trust me, he has ample motivation to do so. If you're unsure, try it in the bath, when you can bend him over and clean him well...I personally don't insert my finger much for cleaning. Regular cleaning will sufice, you're not guarding against nuclear contamination. I find he tastes especially wonderful all wet from the bath. Don't worry - if he's not clean you will be able to tell from a quick sniff as you get a little closer to that area. Just avoid what doesn't smell fresh. If in lustful eagerness you slip up in exploration, the area surrounding will taste bitter, sharp and no fun. So stop and stiff test next time. Better yet, ask if he's showered well. It's really that simple and easy, conpletely sanitary and pleasant for giver and receiver both, and no big deal unless you make it so.
(Besides him eventually returning the favour without my prompting and that feeling great) what do I get out of it? First of all I find it incredibly intimate, tender and special. To do it for me is a symbol of trust and love. To have the last barrier of his body broken, no place I couldn't venture, was incredible. I feel very close to him when I do it. And it just provides him with so much pleasure. It's kind of riske and exciting, I know no one's been there before! And it's the tenderest part of his body. men's bodies are rough and hard, but this place is soft and so delicate and so sensitive. Basically it's analogous to a pussy and a type of sensation and experience not to be found with any other part of him, and if you're going to be with someone for the long haul, variety is good. The feeling I got when I first entered him with my finger (and there really isn't anything in there, promise) was amazing. Being the one always penetrated, to finally penetrate, to be physically received, was a big turn on and shift in perspective. And he felt very pleasant inside, soft, and the rythmic contractions gripping me were a turn on, and of course he was plenty lubed from the rimming for that kind of shallow penetration. If you're a guy and you like going down and fingering a woman, it's probably for the same reason. As a straight female I got alot of enjoyment from it. And when I enter him as he's about to cum, it's explosive for him.
You should try it. Make sure the person is clean, and you will have no bad experiences. If you don't want to try, don't bash others who enjoy something so natural and beautiful. Afterall, nasty things come out of our sex organs, and we put them in our mouths, if they're clean. There's nothing inately unpleasant about any skin anywhere on the body, as long as the person's healthy, and in the G7 countries we have little reason to worry about parasites.
Analingus, Anal Sex, Fellatio, Cunnilingus is between two consenting adults. If you're not into certain sexual behaviors, don't make them seem as if they are abberations. If you didn't really have an interest in knowing more or maybe to actually try this yourself, you wouldn't have read through the entire article then left a comment ;)
I loved this article and am going to e-mail it on to my husband while he is at work. This is hot and definitely something we'll add to our repertoire...
And Selena, I've been reading your stories and I love them. I haven't read them all, but those I have have been generally well thought out and flowed with great climaxes and endings.
Keep on writing. I thoroughly enjoy your work.
It amazes me that people take the time to find and choose specifically this article and read it through and then still talk shit about it. Is it considered gay that something feels good to you and your partner? If you don't want to read about things you think are "nasty" then why even visit the site? Selena keep up the awsome work, you rock!
...I know that Selena is completely and totally female (I don't know what that dude had been smoking)...and a damn fine looking and sounding one. What's more, a brave one. A subject that many would fear to tackle. Well Done! I enjoyed the read and the advice.
I absolutly love giving rim jobs...my favorite part of sex, and this was a very enlightening, well written article. Thanks
I had never even considered anal play, much less rimming, in the early years of my sexual life. Then I had been dating one guy exclusively for about 2 years, and the sex had been wonderful between us, both of us very compatible, and one night he was giving me oral from behind as I was kneeling but upright on the bed, when his mouth just moved to my ass instead. I couldn't believe how pleasurable it felt. When we both discovered how much I liked it, it became a regular part of our love life. He preferred me to reciprocate only with finger play, so that's what I did. <br><br>
Anyway, it's not for everyone, but my experience of anal play was in a strictly hetero relationship and it was quite wonderful. But I will confess that I was quite unknowledgeable about the possible risk of eColi, etc., so this was a good article for me to read and learn some more.
So many people respond with their opinions on something they've never tried or experienced, on every topic. And the funny thing is the response is usually negative. I've never had a complaint from any woman I've been with, especially ex-wives,(fed up with mens juvenille blow-me fantasies). If you truly love your partner, and want her to feel more special than any woman in the world, then there shouldn't be any part of her that you won't kiss, lick, etc. to enjoy her climax. And whether you believe this or not, anyone can climax from a touch anywhere, it just takes a little patience... Nice article Selena, you are accurate as usual.
Would love to give a lady a rim job. Most girls dont even like me talking about their asses not to mind eating them.
My husband and I have been sucking, licking, blowing, and rimming for 36+ years. Intimacy,fabulous sexual orgasms, and love keep a marriage alive. I've seen lots of marriages split either because a husband couldn't satisfy his wife, or his wife couldn't satisfy him. Women no longer tolerate bad lovers, however, men will have affairs with women who love them enough to satisfy their sexual needs, and continue to tolerate a wife who doesn't care enough to satisfy him. They all usually end in divorce, or just stay in bad marriages with infidelity. Most of the excuses I've read sound like bad lovers trying to excuse their lack of love and commitment to their partners. I would say they're likely female and their clits have either stopped working or never worked from the beginning. Many women lie to prospective husbands and pretend to like sex just to get a commitment. After the marriage, they make them go without. Sisters, that mule won't plow anymore. For those men who refuse to learn to lick clits and to give your wives what they need: find yourself a woman with few sexual needs to match your own. You guys should get together. For those confused about how a homosexual feels: it's not about "how they have sex", but who they have passion for. A female friend of mine, who is my age, had a wonderful marriage until her husband passed away with a heart attack. She was forced back to the dating scene and she was shocked at how many bad lovers are out there. She said one guy, our age, was all for her sucking his cock, but when she expected reciprocation, he said "that he just didn't believe in that". She bid him farewell and realized why five (5) women had already divorced him. I love oral sex in every variety of which getting my ass licked is a part of that. It feels absolutely wonderful, and yes, I hold tight to my husband as he's a fabulous lover and we will both make each other feel wonderful. The days of men/women putting up with bad lovers for the sake of the kids is over. Fidelity is more important than ever. The true nastiness and fear is infidelity with the prospect of catching a disease. An ass can be washed clean, some of these diseases can't be washed away. Sexually unhappy men and women WILL go hunting. THAT is the ultimate nasty.
well explained, and left me curious! cant wait to try it out. thanks!
Great how to guide. However, since I am in a monagomus relationship with my wife, I don't feel that I have to clean her asshole first. I would rather clean her asshole with my tongue ! She knows that it is a great turn-on for me to lick and tongue fuck her asshole, so she lets me do it anytime I want to, as long as she is already awake. I love the smell and taste of my wife's asshole ! I can't get enough !
One night an old boyfriend and I were getting frisky, getting it on in bed, when he slipped and ended up in the rear view parking lot. It hurt at first but as he humped in and out a few times it actually became pleasurable. Both of us had one of the best orgasms we had had in our entire relationship. Afterwards when I was squirming with a little pain he went down on me and rimmed my butt hole. Wow what a turn on. I had an immediate orgasm and decided to reciprocate the pleasure. My boyfriend enjoyed it so much that it actually became an integral part of our lovemaking. It's not for everyone but if you havent tried it you really should. Dont knock something unless you have first tried it.
I am absolutely in love with my girlfreinds butt. This article makes me so excited to try this. I have always wanted to and she has agreed and we are going to go to town soon!
rimming is so common, you make it sound taboo.
i was reading stories on scat and tampon sucking when i came across your story. made me go soft very quickly
Good article, however: the rectum is a part of colon, and feces is stored there. Of course, if you want to get technical, it is not stored everywhere, it should be always moving due to peristalsis. In addition, enemas do not clean out the whole colon, but they do clean the rectum and some parts of the sigmoid and descending colon.
Aside from these facts, it was a good article and good ideas.
Rimming was once one of the highlights of sexlife with my partner.We have had a monogamous relationship for over twenty years and for the first fifteen or so he loved rimming my ass.Also anal sex was a regular dish on our 'menu'.
However things changed and we have done none of that stuff in the last five years.
One of the first comments on this page mentioned that if one of you isn't 'into it' then it's time to move on to try other things.
This we have done successfully but I still occasionally ask for attention 'there' and receive a firm "No"!
I wish more women were open to doing this to guys!
I found that more women love it done to them. Men have hairy asses so to help the process have the wife or girlfriend shave your ass first. i myself love eating women's asses but they are nice and free of hair! One dominant girlfriend 5 years my senior and more experienced got on top of me and gave me a lesson in 69 analictus. We started eatung pussy and sucking cock then licked our way towards our assholes then dove inside with our tongues. We literally fucked our asses with our tongues until we both came! That was Soooooooo hottttt!
There are people out there who would never go ass to mouth.
BUT I love it but my husband doesn't seem to enjoy giving it much but thats ok, cos he just loves getting rimmed while i play with his cock at the same time. It gets me going almost as much and hearing him moan is my biggest turn on.
I reckon everyone should have a go at giving and recieving at least once in there lives. DOn't say no until you've tried it and found its not as bad as you thought.
Every woman I have been with sexually I have licked their rear to orgasm. I have a long tongue and reamed them good. I am not sick and am healthy. They all were shocked they came from the pleasure! Be clean take a shower first! 69 analictus was my fav! I came too
I am still amazed at all those who see an article like this and knowing before they select it what the subject matter is, yet still feel compelled to read it (or possibly not?) and then put their ignorance on display in the comments
It makes me feel "homo-ish" or any other excuse using someone else’s non-immoral choice of sexual practice as a slur is not acceptable. As mentioned either by the author or another poster, it was not all that long ago that oral sex, male to female aka cunnilingus, was the taboo subject of the out-there cutting edge 'mainstream' porn films (before vid tape). I remember the buzz going around when a stag film or “dirty movie” (requiring a projector and a screen) was available and “it has lots of eating pussy” being the big draw. Heck, we had seen lots of intercourse and blow jobs but eating pussy, wow! I remember guys discussing whether they would or not, like it was a really daring practice and all the eewwws about it. There seemed to be a racial component to the discussion as many more black guys (almost 100%) than white said that cunnilingus was a non-starter like “if she ain’t satisfied by my cock then forget it. I don’t play that shit.”
I was an early devotee of kissing pussy having started with my sister as youngsters (very youngster). Then the golden age of porn movies brought about by Beta and VHS tapes featured lots of cunnilingus, black, white, Asian and everybody. How the times have changed as going oral-vaginal down on the ladies is pretty much universally acceptable by all now (in Western cultures at least). Happily oral-anal is gaining ground fast if the experience of the erotica driven significant increase in the popularity of cunnilingus is any measure. In my own experience I am now on my third partner/lover who loves getting rimmed.
My first was with my ex of 30 some years and she loved my going down on her back door. She even reciprocated on occasion particularly during 69 action. That progressed rapidly and frequently to anal intercourse. I have it on an absolutely reliable source that since my taking her anal cherry, she has continued on in her love of anal with subsequent partners.
My second (and late) wife became an analingus addict (receiving) and subsequently I became one too (giving : P). Almost every love making session had some. A few times it even led to anal intercourse. She was not as comfortable with giving but one of the few times that she did is the standout salad tossing interlude ever for me. I came home from work, we kissed, she knelt, took out my cock and began to suck me, turned me around, spread my ass apart and dove in with full french kissing intensity, tongue frequently and firmly in my anus. I could tell at the first contact of her lips that my ass had a day’s accumulated perspiration and ripening but there was not a second of hesitation as she kissed and tongued my ass lengthily and ferociously. That finally turned into us kissing madly as I savored the unmistakable scent and flavor of my ass that graced her lips and cheeks and the full realization of what this wonderful woman and reluctant rimmer had given to me. I literally kissed her face clean. Our making love afterwards was pretty intense too.
After what my late wife did for me, while I am not into scat, I am also not put off by a well-seasoned anus. Several months after she passed, I had a new lover whose reaction to the first few times I caressed her intimately in the anal area told me and rightly so that analingus was going to be treat once again. It also turns out that she loves anal intercourse too. And this lover fulfilled several other fantasies as well, being very much younger, a true red head, and technically an incestuous one. I wish my lotto luck were only as a fraction as good as my analuck.
it was so good to read a thoughtful and accurately written article about this sex action. the emphasis on mutual calmness and checking in with your partner as you progress onwards is very true in my experience too. thanks again.
I have long been a lover of licking my wife's ass. She knows that I will during most of our love making tongue her ass, so she will keep her self clean. With that said there is no way to stay completely clean. For those who fear the worst 30 years and never any thing but the sweet sound of my lover's moans as I wiggle my tongue in her ass. I have grown to love the taste of both of her sexy holes. I don't think we would ever not include it in how we love each other.C61F
The ultimate act of submission and an activity which I adore carrying out, but I prefer the spelling 'anilingus'.
I am lucky enough to train my young gf into doing this. I love how it feels. When she is on her knees giving me head I would turn around and have her lick my hole. Or I would lift my leg up on a chair and let her lick it from the front. After I nut on her I would piss on her face. She loves it
I've been married to my wife for 29 years. We were both virgins and on our wedding night I began my very inexperienced attempt to perform cunnilingus on her. Not knowing the specifics, haha, I began licking away softly in the dark at anything I could feel with my ups or tongue.
She gave me a loud "Oooh yeah!" at one point and I began licking and kissing away, as she moaned in pleasure,......... ......at her anus!
The next morning she asked "Where did you learn that?" and giving her a befuddled look I said "That was my first time I swear" and she laughed.
"Did you know you were licking my butt? " she asked and, before I could feel humiliated and stupid,she kissed me.
"I loved it! It kind of tickled!" she added.
it's been a regular part of our sex life ever since.........and our kids and grandkids probably think we're boring old fogies!!!
Very informative. Having said that, although I love anal sex, I dislike being rimmed primarily because of the frequency of Urinary Tract Infections (UTI). I have repeatedly tried to prevent cross-contamination, but somehow I just can't seem to get the concept through to my lover.
He'll start licking my pussy then go down to my anus & back to my pussy. Or he'll put his fingers, his cock or a toy in my bottom, and the next thing I know, he's trying to put it in my pussy. It really puts me on edge, since I can't relax my vigilance or back I have to go for more antibiotics. I've talked about it, he claims to understand, yet the same thing happens over & over. It's gotten to the point I try to sterilize the whole area because I know he's just going to do it again. UTIs don't seem to bother him, but they bother me alot, so I guess I have to reluctantly end our physical relationship. (It's been eight years, and he still doesn't get it, or doesn't care.)
I’d have to agree with the author… nothing beats a hand job while getting rimmed. It truly is an indescribable pleasure. My first wife (who shall remain nameless but whose initials are Carol) used to do it to me. How I got her to do that, I’ll never know!
I'll never forget the time as a young man that I was dating a woman (not serious or exclusive) and we found ourselves in a friends apartment for long enough that we felt comfortable getting naked for the first time. In an awkward session of rolling around on the couch. We found ourselves in a groping exploration of each other and I realized I was in a classic 69 pose, a new one for me. I decided to go for it, and show her that I was an experienced guy (ho ho). Her ass was in my face and I went for what I assumed was pussy territory...wrong. Her sweet ass cheeks were right there and I went for it, kissing and licking and forcing my face between her cheeks while kissing and licking all over. My tongue slipped between her cheeks and went to town in earnest, and I was loving it. She suddenly moaned and gasped, and shook all over. Then she suddenly came up to my face and lay back there looking up at me with a beautiful smile and loving eyes with a loving expression that I had never seen before. She reached for my hand and squeezed, looking up at me. It was a few days later that her sister made a pass at me at a a party, and whispered to me that she knew what we had done and wanted to experience it too. In the next few minutes I learned that I not only had made love to her ass but her anus as well...and had apparently done an excellent job. I had loved it myself and slowly learned that I had somehow become a sought after date in our extended circle of friends. Ever since, I have had many partners and found that kissing ass is the most intimate act that I have ever experienced, and many women I dated have been repulsed at this while others have told me that I was the best lover that they ever had. I can't describe what I feel when I have a partner who is willing to share this most intimate act.
While I could give support to analingus performed on women, I can say I have had both sexes do me. I enjoyed returning the act on women, I preferred giving older women oral service. The act is giving the other an intimate contact. When the parnter knows or expects it, they will be prepared. As for UTI, that may be caused by unclean phallus injectors and must be avoided. I think if she is not prepared for oral, she may not have the fluids needed to protect her from an infection. One woman I had did advise she had UTI’s. Another one may had one and rejected my assertion of cunnilingus. I think one should do cunnilingus then analingus so any fecal matter is not transferred.
Bruce