Black Men vs. White Men

I like all men, but there is something special about having sex with black men. I am married to a white man whom I love very much. Do I like sex with black men when I can get it, YES! Do I prefer sex with black men? Sometimes. I like men, not only for their cocks, but for the men themselves. When it comes to sex, that is a different story. When I want sex, I want it with a man who is all man. I want him to be visually and physically stimulating. A larger cock is more pleasing to look at, and often feels better, but that is not always the case.

If we are talking size alone, there is a lot of variety.

If we are to talk about cock size alone, I have to say that the bigger a man's cock is, the more of a challenge it is for me to be able to take all of it. I do like being filled up with cock. I love that feeling. And some men with larger cocks are very talented with what they have. I also have to admit that I have been with smaller men that I liked just as well. A lot of it is the man's technique.

If a man who has a large cock doesn't know how to use it, then the sex is not going to be good at all. If a smaller cocked man is very experienced and knows how to use what he has, the sex can be very good. One thing I have come to notice is that men who have smaller cocks are more timid in bed, whereas larger cocked men tend to be more aggressive. This can be a good and bad thing at the same time.

If a man has a small cock and he is timid in bed, you end up having to tell him what you want him to do. You kind of have to be his teacher. On the other hand, if a man has a huge cock and is too aggressive, then you have to teach him as well. Sex shouldn't have to be a teaching experience. If sex is a learning experience for the woman, or the man is your husband and you want him to do more, then fine. Sex with another man should be fun, exciting and you should experience more than just one orgasm.

I have found that white men and black men alike can sustain erections for varying amounts of time. Some men I want to cum in me as quickly as possible, other men I want to enjoy for as long as possible. I prefer men who have a short recoup time between cumming and getting erect again. I also prefer men who can cum more than once in a sexual session.

Are black men better than white men? It depends. Some black men are amazing in bed. I have had some pretty good sex with white men, too. It all depends on the guy, not the color of his skin, which makes him a better lover. And a lot has to do with what you want out of the sexual experience.

For many women, the size of a man's penis is not that important, especially in a committed relationship. But when it is just sex, many women want something more than they have been getting or get at home. If you are a woman and penis size is not important to you when you have sex, then I believe that sex probably isn't that important to you, either.

Science has said the average penis is less than 6" in length, and many men fit in this category. But, not all men were created equal or average. I will admit that there are white men who have larger penises, but they are the few. I have also been with a couple of black men who had smaller penises, but they are also the few.

A larger penis does not always equal great sex, but a penis that is too small rarely equals good sex, either.

Each woman is going to have her preference as far as penis size. And some women are going to have a race preference. To me, my preferences change a lot. I admit I prefer a larger penis for intercourse and an "average" sized one for sucking. If I am sucking a smaller penis I know I am pleasing the man who owns that penis. When I have intercourse with a man who has a larger cock, I know, more often than not, I am going to be pleased.

Many women enjoy sex with smaller cocked men. And that's a good thing. Other women want more when it comes to sex. In my personal opinion, when I am with my husband, I like intimacy and closeness. When I am with other men, I LOVE the sex.

A man's cock doesn't have to be huge, but it is nice when it looks right on the body it is connected to.

Some men, when they are naked, have impressive bodies, cock and all. Other men have nice bodies, but very small penises which detract from the whole body image. When a man has a nice body and a nice sized cock, their body is impressive from head to toe. When a man has a nice body and then you find out that he has a small penis, you can't help but feel let down and sorry for the guy.

Many women fear that the larger penis is going to cause pain. I used to think that a man's penis could be too big, too. Throughout the years, and by having sex with hundreds of men, I have learned that the larger cocks I have in me, the easier it is to take them and experience pleasure with and from them.

I agree that both black and white men want to please the women they are with, but I have found that the black men that I have been with have been more than willing to take the time that is required for me to be able to take all of them in me. I have not found that to be the case with most white men I have had sex with.

I have found black men to be more sensual in their lovemaking. And they seem to be more willing to let me give to them orally for long periods of time without having to cum, too. And when I have sex with black men, I tend to be able to take their longer, thicker cocks more easily because I am so aroused by them. I believe that arousal is a big part of being able to take a well-endowed man all the way.

The vagina has the capacity to expand, allowing for the passage of a baby during childbirth. The vagina also can elongate during intercourse to accommodate any size penis.

For some women, the depth from the vaginal opening to the tip of the cervix is 3 to 4 inches when they are not sexually aroused. Other women may have a vaginal depth of five to seven inches. Regardless, during arousal, blood flows to the genital area, and sexual excitement causes the upper two-thirds of the vagina to lengthen by forcing the cervix and uterus to ascend. The vagina also lubricates to help ease penetration, allowing a woman to take all of a well-endowed man's cock.

What's sad is that so much is known about the male penis, but little is known about a woman's vagina. So many women, themselves, know little about their vaginas. And that is even sadder. For informational purposes, I want to educate those who may not know.

Sometimes, a woman's entire genital region is referred to as the vagina. But in fact, the vagina is just a part of the package, so to speak. The outer portion of a woman's privates is called the vulva. That includes the inner and outer labia, the clitoris, clitoral hood, and the opening to the urethra and vagina. The actual vagina is an internal structure, along with the other parts of the female reproductive system including the cervix, uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes.

What a lot of women do not understand about their vagina is that the uterus can be pushed up and the vaginal canal can deepen to allow deeper penetration. This occurs when a woman is in an extreme state of arousal. Many men think they have entered a woman's uterus when they can penetrate so deeply that their cock is pressed between the vaginal walls and the uterus. This may feel as though a man has entered a woman's "second hole." That is what many of my black lovers call it when my vagina tents and they can penetrate me as deeply as they do.

To me, if the vagina, when it is tented, allows more space for a penis, wouldn't you want a man who can fill all of that space? I know I do. That is why I like larger-cocked black men. I get more aroused and my body reacts allowing me to be able to take larger cocks and for larger cocked men to get the most pleasure from my vagina.

I would feel terrible if I had sex with a man and he could only get half, or less, of his penis inside of me. To me, that would be a waste of a lot of cock. And if you think about it, if you met a guy and you got excited and aroused and your vagina tented and he ended up having a small penis, that would mean that your body prepared itself for a lot more than the man could give.

When a woman complains that her man is, or that men are, too long and hit her cervix, which to many women is very painful, it means that she was not aroused in the first place.

Considering that a majority of women's vaginas are only approximately four inches deep when they are not aroused, even men with small penises can hit a woman's cervix if she is not aroused. This being the case, no matter what position you try, if arousal is not there, pleasure won't be either.

Fear can keep a woman from enjoying sex to the fullest. There are a lot of women who, when they see a man has a large penis, fear the worst rather than expect the best. This decreases a woman's ability to become fully aroused and for her body to react as it should.

When a woman is fully aroused, her body reacts naturally by adjusting itself for maximum pleasure. The inner part of the woman's vagina enlarges itself to increase space so that a man's larger penis can fully be inserted, resulting in orgasm.

A good number of women claim that they rarely, if ever, have orgasms from intercourse. Many women say that they only orgasm from their clit being stimulated. I say why not experience both? I guess if we are to consider how and what can get us aroused we must begin with the biggest sexual organ, the brain.

Black men turn me on, sexually. When I look at them, I often think of how it would be to have them in bed, having them hold and touch and kiss me, then finally making love to me. What happens in your brain has a lot to do with how your body reacts. If you do not think that sex is going to be good or pleasurable, then your body will make sure that the sex isn't good or pleasurable.

Many scientists believe that if a woman has a low sex drive or has trouble becoming aroused that she is suffering from female sexual arousal disorder. I say that if a woman is having trouble becoming aroused or has little interest in sex, it just might be her past sexual experiences or fears that are to blame.

Look at it this way, if you are used to having sex with a white man who has a penis that is average, about 5 1/2 inches long, and then you meet and find out that the black man you are going to have sex with is 8 inches long soft, you might scare your body into thinking that he is too big and then your body begins to protect itself by tightening up, which means that sex will hurt because your vagina goes into defense mode rather than pleasure mode.

Sex isn't supposed to be painful, and all vaginas are designed to be able to accept pretty much any size penis. I believe that if a man's penis is too big for you it means you were, or are, not aroused enough and didn't allow your body to respond accordingly.

Drugmakers have been trying to find a "female Viagra," a pill that could help raise a woman's libido and help with arousal the way Viagra helps men with erectile dysfunction. That's all fine and dandy, but what about helping men learn how to arouse a woman, or teaching women that enjoying and wanting sex is not a bad thing?

There is a social stigma attached to a woman wanting and desiring sex that makes it hard for women to feel that it is okay to want and enjoy sex. Few women want to be known as a slut just because they like sex. This is part of the problem for a lot of women who do not want or enjoy sex fully.

Sexual arousal is the most understudied and overlooked part of a woman's sexual experience. It's not a limited experience. It can be compared to turning on a shower and waiting for the water to reach the right temperature before you can get in. If the water doesn't get hot, the shower is not a pleasant experience. When a woman is aroused it can last minutes to hours to days. When a woman is fully aroused, the sexual possibilities with her are limitless.

The problem is that only the rare woman truly understands the power of her arousal and how to access and maintain its magic powers to enhance the parts of her life beyond the bedroom.

Consider the potential of sexual arousal to fuel self-transformation. This is what most women are seeking when they go to see a sex coach or buy a book on orgasm. They are wanting more, and somehow they know that it's there - in their own bodies. Perhaps they have seen it in other women - the French refer to it as "je ne sais quoi" - it's a woman who sparkles from within. And arousal can do that for any woman.

I have found the secret to my arousal is in thinking about or remembering the sexual experiences I have had or will have with black men. I believe that once you know what arouses you, you can access it more easily and bring it out in full force to ignite your partner's sexual passions. When you know what arouses you and you go there, your sexual desire and the pleasure resulting from it can and will increase.

Although women do not often think about a man's penis size, men do. And if a man has a large penis, it is something that a woman needs to think about, too, if she is going to have sex with him. If you are not used to a large penis during intercourse, then you have some homework to do before you have sex with a large cocked man.

First, you have to get over the fear that his large penis is going to hurt you. Second, you have to want to have sex with him. You have to desire him. Something about him has to make your body react appropriately so that you both get complete sexual satisfaction. All of this has to first happen in your mind if you want your body to follow.

In most women who are not experiencing sexual problems, libido and arousal are closely related and difficult to separate. Libido refers to a baseline interest in sex and might be redefined as sexual appetite.

Arousal refers to the physiological response to sexual stimuli. Women with higher libidos generally have a greater response to sexual stimuli or greater arousal. Physical manifestations of sexual arousal include vaginal lubrication and increased blood flow to the labia, clitoris, and vagina. If you are experiencing sexual problems, ie; little or no interest in sex, vaginal dryness, decreased sexual arousal, as a woman, then you need to find out why.

Many people say that women's sexual problems may come from feelings of guilt and/or shame learned in early childhood. I tend to agree. A lot of people feel that drug therapies may be the answer, or maybe psychotherapy. Women can also choose behavioral therapy to help increase sexual arousal. Such therapy is aimed at enhancing sexual fantasies and focusing one's attention on sexual stimuli.

For women in ongoing relationships, the therapist would also look into the possibility of communication problems in the relationship, or lack of sexual stimulation by the woman's partner. What helped me was finding out what truly aroused me, sex with black men.

Back to the brain, the really big sexual organ; The brain is responsible for our emotions, our perceptions (including pain and pleasure), our memories; for regulating and controlling our central nervous system, our cardiovascular system, our endocrine system, and our senses.

The hypothalamus of the brain is responsible for the secretion of hormones that influence sexual feelings and responses, like oxytocin, vasopressin, serotonin, and dopamine.

The brain receives and processes messages from your sensory organs, giving you and other parts of your body information about how something (or someone, including yourself) looks, sounds, tastes, smells, and feels to you. It's also the brain that sends and receives signals regarding blood pressure, heart rate, body temperature, and how we breathe: all huge parts of sexual function, experience, and response.

It's the pleasure center of your brain that sends signals back to you that what's happening feels good (or doesn't), and it's your brain and nervous system that transmit the feelings and sensations we have with orgasm.

Not only is sex about communication between people, but it's also about the systems of your brain and the rest of your body communicating, too. The beauty of bodies and brains is that they don't all communicate the same way. It may take time to figure out how your personal communication works, but it's definitely worth the effort.

Without your brain, you wouldn't feel pain or pleasure, even if you were touched in a way or in a place that many people find pleasurable.

The brain is primarily responsible for orgasm: during sexual pleasure, all the nerve endings of your body (including your genitals, all linked to your nervous system) are in concert and communication with your brain, and vice-versa. Without everything going on in our brains, we wouldn't have any interest in sex at all. And that is often the case for many women. Arousal must begin in the brain for the body to be able to respond.

This - and the fact that orgasm is more about the brain and nervous system than body parts where physical stimulation that might be part of why we have an orgasm occurs - is one reason why classifying orgasms like "vaginal orgasm" or "clitoral orgasm" is problematic.

Ultimately, when it comes to orgasm (as well as most sexual pleasure), if we want to attach it to one body part, the only correct term would be "brain orgasm," since that's where orgasm, like so much of sexuality, happens most.

Sexuality is physical and sensory, but also chemical, emotional (yes, even for anyone who says sex isn't at all emotional for them), psychological, intellectual, social, cultural, and multi-sensory. That's all brain stuff.

It's not just what we feel if we touch ourselves or someone else touches us a certain way and how the brain influences those sensations, but all we think and feel about it, including messages others have given us, all our previous sexual experiences and experiences which may have influenced our sexuality, our hopes, and fears, our sexual fantasies or expectations, how we feel about who we're with if and when we have sexual partners, how we feel about our sexual selves as a whole and everything going on with us hormonally and physically when we are sexually stimulated - whether we're aroused without any kind of touch, or if touch is also involved - in any way.

Our brain is our biggest, most important, and most active sexual organ.

Once you understand how the brain - what it is, what it does, all the systems it controls and responds to - is our largest and most important sexual organ, it's a lot easier to see why we, as a people, can be so sexually diverse and experience any kind of sex so differently. After all, if sex was only or mostly about our genitals, even with genital diversity, it would be sound to expect that those of us with the same basic parts would have the same experiences with a given kind of touch. But we don't, not by a serious long shot, and that's primarily because of our brains.

Once you understand how the brain is our largest and most important sex organ you can also begin to see how thinking differently isn't necessarily a negative when it comes to sexual pleasure.

What is it about black men that arouses me so much? It is not just that they are often in better shape than white men or that their cocks are usually much larger, it is how I feel when I am with them.

Do I enjoy giving my husband oral sex? Of course. I love him. And I know he likes me to suck on him. It gets him aroused as much, if not more than, seeing me have sex with other men. For both me and my husband, and how we see it, other men are for intercourse and my sexual fulfillment. My husband is there to love me, the other men are there to please me.

My husband also gets more excited when he knows I am going to have sex with a black man or black men. He likes knowing that I am going to be pleased by a man who is a great lover and who has a big cock. The fact that I am aroused more by black men than I am by white men, and that my husband gets more excited when I have sex with black men makes it even better for both of us. When I have sex with a larger cocked black man and I take all of his cock in me, my husband feels a sense of pride and I feel a sense of accomplishment.